“You can tell if someone had a history of being married, liked it and is willing to do it again.” There are, however, healthy, well-meaning people who inadvertently include off-putting statements in their profiles.

“They say a picture speaks 1,000 words, but there is an art to reading between the lines,” says Julie Spira, author of “The Perils of Cyber-Dating” (Morgan James Publishing, .95).He highlighted all the ways Alex was wrong for me—even though, if I were to write a checklist of what I wanted, Frank would have flunked and Alex would have excelled.Alex wasn’t the only ex who helped me recognize the inherent kindness in Frank that I might have otherwise missed.But the marriage lasted less than a year, and Casey isn't in a hurry to walk down the aisle again. "That made me feel old," says the 31-year-old Casey.Since she arrived in Houston 18 months ago for her television job, her dating life has had its ups and downs — mostly downs. So she went out and bought a pair of high heels and immediately felt better.